Co-parenting is a term given to divorced parents that have joint or partial custody of their children. Just because you've divorced doesn't mean you stop being a parent to your children. You're still a parent even if you don't see your child as much as you did before.
Divorce can be difficult for a child (as well as parents). In order to help your child adjust to this new way of life, there are things you need to do as a parent. Read below for tips on how to be a successful coparent.
1. Keep Communication Open
Keep open communication between yourself and the other parent. You should be on the same page as far as routines, rules, and how to raise your child. Speak to the other parent about keeping with the same routines in each household, such as bedtime being the same. Discipline should also be the same in each household.
Talk to the other parent about behavioral problems you may be having with the child (and vice versa). This way, problems can be resolved by both parents and you won't have that bad guy parent and fun parent difference.
Other communication, such as information about school events, sports, and grades, should all be shared with the other parent.
2. Don't Bad-Mouth the Other Parent
Do not bad-mouth the other parent. Even if you have strong negativity toward the other parent, you need to remain positive when talking about the other parent. Do not talk to your child about past differences in your marriage or things that occurred with your divorce.
That is information and talk that should not be heard by those little ears. Your child may be too young to hear that type of information and may not fully understand it. It may also cause anxiety and stress for your child that they do not need.
You and the other parent should set aside your differences and put your child first.
3. Never Discuss Child Support With Your Child
The amount of child support you are or aren't receiving should not be heard by your child or discussed with your child. You should never tell your child to tell the other parent that they need to pay their support. This is putting your child in the middle, which could make your child feel stressed.
Any information about child support should be discussed with the other parent directly or through your attorney, nobody else. This is not information for your child. Child support is meant to help your child, but that doesn't mean your child should know anything about it.
4. Give the Other Parent Their Time
Your child should enjoy their time with the other parent. Allow your child to spend that time with their parent and to bond with the other parent. Also allow your child to tell you what they did without feeling bitter about the fun they've had together.
5. Take Time for You
While your child is away at the other parent's home, you should take that time to relax, have fun, and destress. Don't spend this time thinking about what is happening at the other household.
Call a friend to talk, read a book, or do other things you've been wanting to do. These things can help you take your mind off your kids while they're away.
It can be difficult to co-parent, especially when the divorce or custody battle didn't end well. You need to do what's in the best interest of your child. Talk to an attorney at the Law Offices of Shahnaz Hussain about your divorce or child custody case, as well as get tips to help you successfully co-parent.